Thursday, August 23, 2007

One Year on Blogspot

…with tons of questions that I didn’t have any answers to… to relive certain memories and to try to forget others…

On this blank black background, exactly one year ago… I started blogging.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe:

He probably doesn’t even remember this, but Olawunmi once told me a Yoruba saying… something about your name influencing the things that happen to and around you…

I still don’t mind the name Overwhelmed… but I wouldn’t mind being called Olive as well…

Olive means to me intelligence and inner beauty and grace and fun and compassion, individuality and strength and self- love and loyalty and honesty… me.

See I actually love my real name… but I’m one of those weird people that constantly gives myself new names every couple of years.

I initially started with the name thing so I could have a consistent name to give guys I wasn’t interested in without being rude… I never want to hurt anyone’s feelings so I’d rather do a ‘My name is Phoenix but I’m not interested’ bit than ignore the person completely or give them a ‘Beyonce/ Ciara/ Raj’ name that I won’t remember to answer to if the person actually remembers my ‘name’ and tries to call my attention later...

It started out this way… and gradually evolved to the level where I actually take my names quite seriously and put a bit of thought into them… and for that reason will not hesitate to cut a dude for… (if I will get into trouble for saying that… it was a um metaphor… if I won’t… shit… I MEAN it!)

My names are usually a bit abstract …

In Ghana, it was Passionfruit.

A couple of years later, I got bored and changed it to Paradise.

A few months into the name, I knew I liked it but it didn’t excite me beyond measure… or give me particular pleasure when I used it. I decided to go French… ‘Paradisia’ I had a good run out of this one cos people always asked…

Then a year or so ago… I adopted the name ‘Phoenix’. I used this one in serious company… with a straight face… it cracked my friends up. I heard a lot of ‘bird’ metaphors in relation to this one… but it went over pretty well…

I haven’t completely phased ‘Phoenix’ out… but I’m gradually introducing the name ‘Olive’

(and yes I do realize I might be upsetting the ‘p-name’ balance by using Olive… but hey what’s life if one doesn’t take chances?)

Slight digression before I completely forget…I have a mildly funny story about my name Olive … a message someone left me

My Voicemail:

{You have 1 new message left at 10.45pm on July 14 from (***) *3* - 4**9

“Um hi… this is William. I don’t know if you remember me cos we met about 2 weeks ago at _______ but the few times when I’ve tried to call you... your phone has rung off. See I’m not even so sure I have the right person cos I remember you specifically saying your name was Olive but your voicemail says ‘Overwhelmed’… so I’m not even sure… but um if this is Olive… then please give me a call at (***) *3* - 4**9. “

I just laughed and laughed… he was a cutie but I never did call him back. My sister Fire suggested at the time that I tell him Olive is my middle name… lol… but nah… too many explanations. }

Anyways…

Where does Overwhelmed Naija Babe fit into all the names I’ve ever given myself?

I think it’s one of the most honest names I’ve had… the others are more ‘good time’, perhaps slightly fun(ny) ‘sometimes exotic’… completely conceptual

Overwhelmed Naija Babe started out as brutal honesty and truth… has evolved into laughs that try to mask the pain…thoughts like: ‘not-talking-about-it-means-it-will-go-away’… truth that shows up in the dead silence… some healing… truth but in doses that slide down easier with a bottle of vodka… outside suppression that I fight against without knowing who the enemy really is… having ideas… rejecting them… picking them up by the tail… shaking them to see if anything will fall out…

Overwhelmed Naija Babe… knowing that people are stabbing and hugging me at the same time… a slap on my cheek with their right hands and a soothing touch with their left hands… fighting the angels as well as the devils… mental FUCKERY.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe… writing me… loving me… accepting me… celebrating me…

Overwhelmed Naija Babe… genuine smiles… genuine affection… embracing the good… rejecting the bad… standing up for myself…

Overwhelmed Naija Babe… constantly working towards not being a victim of my memories… making COMPLETE peace with me.

One year on blogspot eh…

Here’s to the rest of my journey… wherever it takes me.

52 comments:

Zephi said...

A toast to you for a year of consistent, articulate and fun blogging...wishing you many more years..overwhelmednaijababe.blogspot.com has been and will continue to be an interesting read.

am I first? maybe not

oh well

Teediva said...

and am i second? i hope.

happy anniversary.

Nwanyi Ocha said...

Happy Anniversary. You are Who You Want to Become. God Bless

Omosewa said...

Hehehe @ the confused brother, eeyah. Olive is sexy. I agree with Olawunmi, and many times i've said i'll go look for that nickname you say you hate and call you that, then i forget, LOL i'm troublesome abi. Anyways, happy anniversary. You're very cool peeps as far as i'm concerned,in all your craziness hehehe. Looking forward to more posts. Keep doing you, thats what makes you the special babe you are.*hug*

Belle said...

Cheers for being here for a year. Ups and downs, but it seems to have been worth it.
Thought sometimes controversial, your blog is honest, and i admire that.
here's to more years in blogsville!

Confused Naija Girl said...

congratulations!
happy anniversary!

Naija Vixen said...

Happy new anniversary....here's a toast to many more great posts and to self fulfilment...enjoy!

SET said...

CONGRATS, YOU HAVE DONE AND ARE DOING GREAT. NOW I CAN GO BACK TO READING THE REST OF THE POST. LOL

femme said...

i think u are one of the nicest persons here.
happy to celebrate your one year anniversary with you.so YAY! YAY!! YAY!!!

quick question-
do u think your different names develop different personas?

yayi said...

its been an interesting one year.kudos to you. Olive is not baddddd.lol

Idemili said...

Happy Anniversary. Where is the cake?

יש (Yosh) said...

Happy One year on Blogville and glad you didn't let go of this when u thought about it a while ago. Good to still have you here.

Have a good weekend!

omohemi Benson said...

congratulations love,
many more years, here.

I love coming here,there always something to look forward to.

Aijay said...

Congrats babes!!

Ms. May said...

Congrats hon! Keep doing you.

SapphireAster said...

congrats. I missed my own anniversary in July lol!

Chronicles of a Naija Lady said...

Congratulations girl!!!!!

sweet efe said...

happy anniversary!!! i have been reading ur past archives for the past 2 days. i hav never been dis much interested in a blog like dis b4. after readin all ur posts i really admire u. i wish i could write like u, ur writing seems to be so effortless, ur vocabulary is really good and on point. at first wen i started reading ur blog, i just thought u wont be a serious person but after reading just a bit i was really baffled. i really admire u. keep it up. my best posts are ur mummysundays....i cant imagine wat u went thru knowing u were constantly moving. anyway am happy u are at a place where u find peace and happy. just keep on writing and i will keep on reading....and i cant believe ur only 21..its really good! keep it up

Naijadude said...

hmmm a controversial long one year that is.... i raise my palm wine bowl to that one year ooh... Just dey take am easy and be good with urself eh!

kokolette said...

well written...happy anniversary!
I'm happy you're happy to be where you are! cheers

Jennifer said...

congrats on one year babe, keep blogging!!! ♥

cinnamonqueen said...

All my genuine love, hugs and smiles coming your way Overwhelmed. Back in Blogsville as of today and your blog was an uplifting read. Happy happy anniversary!

temmy tayo said...

My sweerie, my sugar!
Congrats jare. Time flies. May your life take God's desired plan for u.

Vixen said...

Happy Blog-versary! I hope you will still be celebrating and blogging this time next year.

Re: The Essence article, oh yeah, I was so stoked to be featured in that. I must have blabbed it to everyone I knew both in the blogosphere and real life. I don't think we were reading each other then....anyway sha, thanks for the congrats.

Cheers!

Mineexclusively said...

Happy anniversary.

Thanks for stopping by.

FemmeNoire said...

Happy Anniversary!

coco said...

well done on reaching one year!!!!!!!!!

SET said...

AWWW EITHER NAME YOU ARE HAVE A SIGNIFICANT PRESENCE. OLIVE IS A BEAUTIFUL NAME, PEOPLE TEND TO GIVE YOU DIFFERENT NAME THAT IS A SIGN OF YOU LEAVING A IMPACT ON THEM. STAY BLESSED.

Fatoumatta said...

well congrts girl...nd today happens to be the eighth birthday of the whole blogspot itself!!
wish i cld last that long...takes alot hard work....

Olamild said...

CONBLOGTULATONS

stranger said...

cheers.

Calabar Gal said...

Happy Anniversaire! U sure have come a long way.

catwalq said...

na wah o
But you know that only you Igbo pple dat can be using names like Paradista and Olive to form.
Mba, wrong ting...

Uzo said...

One year already? Congratulations love.....And this name thing? LOL....

Afrobabe said...

Happy anniversary babes, here is to many more years finding what it is we seek...
as for the name thing I fully get you there,I always use Vivien,wish it was my name too...

confused child said...

congrats girl n pls pls update.

Anonymous said...

congratulobia girl!!!PINK-SATIN

penelope said...

congrats!!!! haha
though phoenix is kinda cute.- u know, in a way:D

penelope said...

thanks for d comment(: haha and i love the rosebud salve too!!!
:D

Amy said...

great post!!
hahah happy anniversary!

Nyemoni said...

HEAR HEAR!

Jennifer said...

blog soon!

Anonymous said...

Please pass this message tom idemili. I want to read about dark man X and she has closed her blog to invitees only. emm,, how do i get invited? its not fair to get people excited and shut them out. that is a sin.

Lonely Truth said...

congratulations Olive

Kafo said...

happy anniversary

may u celebrate many more

419naija said...

And I just got started...happy anniversary.

Don't Eat My Buchela! said...

Cheers on your one year blogging anniversary.

Olive is a nice name. I never knew the meaning before reading your post.

Emz said...

Congrats on your blog's 1st birthday. Woo hoo!! I completely get the whole contingency name thing. I always have a name on standby for guys I don't want to give my real name. And how funny is this? Passionfruit used to be my name too...and it's funny that you used that name in Ghana, where I'm the resident Naija babe...tee hee!

uknaija said...

happy bloggorversary Overwhelmed and remember some of us are out here, rooting for you...:-)

snazzy said...

i suppose it is only necessary that you have one vodka cranberry for every post that you've done this year. If there is a need to have your stomach pumped as a result, at least ur in canada the home of socialised medicine :D

G.nie said...

Hey you, just started reading ur blogspot recently & find it very e-musing, yet so down-to-earth& truthful. keep it up & HAppy anniversary

Chika said...

HEY SWEETS.........CONGRATS ON THE ONE TR FING,U ARE MY MENTHOR BIRTHDAY MATE!