Saturday, August 11, 2007

'Boyfriend'

Babe listen…

If you don’t make it an issue… ‘it’ won’t be an issue.

I don’t have the time or energy to go through the emotional wringer…

I haven’t told you yet… but I’ve been through enough of those to last a lifetime

You like me… I like you

It should be simple

But you complicate it… with your ‘maturity’… your ‘thoughtfulness’…

But I refuse to apologize or explain something that I don't understand myself...

The ‘years’ that bug you bug me sometimes as well… but I decided to not sweat the little things

You have two chances… maybe one

Shape up and deal with it… or I’ll drop you

I like you babe… but I WILL drop you cos I WILL NOT go through life watching my words and actions

I WILL NOT water me down…

It’s supposed to be a freestyle at this point… don’t try to put me in a genre... a box... a 'whatever'

Even as I write this… I think I might be steeling myself against you… babe I don’t want to… but I just might have to.

This might be done before it even really began… but I’d rather that than ‘make do’…

‘Boyfriend’… for the purpose of this blog… for however long you might end up featuring on it… I’ll call you ‘Coach’

I deserve the best... as do you... let's be that to each other or nothing else.

19 comments:

mochafella said...

Hmmm,
Three days ago it was taking chances
Now she's pulling no punches
The diva's got no time for flunkies

SET said...

WOW, BEST TO BE BEST TO EACH OTHER OR BE NOTHING. SO TRUE. WHAT'S UP WITH PEOPLE NOT WANTING TO DEAL WITH ISSUES. THEY DO NOT DISAPPEAR, THEY PEND UNTIL IT IS DEALT WITH IT. GOOD WRITING.
HOPE YOU TOO ARE HAVE A BLESSED WEEKEND SO FAR. MINE IS GOING VERY WELL.

Naijadude said...

I wish I could read that page, but unfortunately, some stange codes were showing up.... I dont know what they are eh!

Confessions of a moody crab said...

Babe...you are not taking it easy o. Better deal with whatever issue(s) now than haggle and have sleepless night over it 12months down the line


Hope you are good tho?

azuka said...

If there's anything humans hate, it has to be change. Why would someone want someone else to change instead of making the change to oneself?

kokolette said...

hmm...and this is about the same guy i was hoping was "the one"...lol...'neways you already said you didn't want that just yet.
However it works out love, let us know and i know you'll always make the best decision for yourself
As per that my post...i've put up a post about it...

Zephi said...

"Its supposed to be a freestyle at this point… don’t try to put me in a genre... a box... a 'whatever'"

That there is so quote worthy

this gal odikwa very strong head...The guy wey go marry you no fit do nonensense...

I like what your doing..lay it all out for him...he can take it or leave it God no go vex

chidi said...

hope you are good

Unbiased said...

Sounds like the dude want to be honest from the start. Give him a chance. At least you know what you are getting into head on and can back off when you want without all the drama.

Waffarian said...

sigh. Na wah. When did life become so exhausting? I tire for men oh!

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

Mochafella: I was never one to ‘make do’… it’s either great and complete or nothing at all… I don’t do ‘half-way’ or ‘guess-work’… I have way more regard for myself than that…

Set: It’s not really an issue… it’s something that was there from the beginning… and I can’t deal with someone being on the same thing for too long… I think I’m already starting to disconnect… I think what it is is that I give a lot so I expect a lot… no half-stepping for me… and I haven’t gotten to the point where I loose myself… don’t even know that I will or want to… we’ll see how things go. The weekends been good so far..

Naijadude: I usually write my posts on mozilla… could be why some weird text shows up when you open up my blog on internet explorer… its not that bad though is it? I removed it specially for you sha… I can’t go back to internet explorer after the wonder that was mozilla.

Confessions: nne wassup? Yeah… I’m great… this hasn’t progressed to the level where I worry about it… like I said a chance or 2… and I’m flushing it down the drain… cos I can’t really be bothered jare… I don’t like complicating my life or doing too much explanation in it jare…
Azuka: it’s not even a matter of change… cos this is something that can’t be changed… it’s something that doesn’t have to be drawn out and super-analyzed and picked- apart… it’s something that could be taken for what it is… and life lived in spite of it… but hey sometimes people wanna bother their pretty little heads… unfortunately overwhelmed naija babe isn’t one of those jare… life is too short… I’ve been through way too much to spend my time picking things apart… I prefer building.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

Kokolette: I’ll go read it… ‘the one’… mba oh… it’s not that serious… and you’re right.. that’s exactly what I’m trying to do… make the best decision for myself… and I know I will eventually… for now I’m watching things unfold.

Zephi: lmao@odikwa very strong head… dang I’ve heard that so many times in my life… the good thing is that it has served me well a lot of times in my life. I have very strong ideals, belief in myself… expectations for others and won’t let go of that…sometimes I’ve relaxed certain standards… and sometimes it’s been iite… other times it’s come back to bite me in the ass… so we’ll see… I’ll just go with my gut.

Chidi: lol…. Yeah I’m good… thinking about how I’m gonna clean up my room… it’s a mess and I’m hungry as hell after a little bit of boozing up last night… haha. How you doing gorgeous?

Unbiased: I am giving him a chance… I said I will… cos in spite of myself… I always give people a last chance… but if something will be an issue from now and can’t/won’t be corrected… there’s no point of giving myself grief down the line… if I have to back off based on the same issue… I’d rather do it now than get into it completely… form some kind feelings and then shit bites me in the ass… no thanks.

Waffarian: babe… isn’t it the craziest thing about chances…

In my head and around me said...

I WILL NOT water me down.

I feel this.

O.šeyï said...

Gmmm... it didnt even take long. Chai... you be something o.

Here's what i really feel. You'll know when its right cause both of you would compromise without seeing it much as being "Watered down".

You'll know. Goodluck: relationships are never easy.

Naija Vixen said...

Uhmmm....Canadian Ninja! (Allow me this razzness abeg!) Best to iron out issues from the get go...have a fab week!

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

In my head: lol… thanks mami… how’s the weekend going?

O.seyi: it’s not even like that… this might be the shortest one yet… it’s not that serious sha… we never really got anywhere further than a few dates and a goodnight kiss so it’s all gravy. To be honest it’ll be hard for y’all to completely understand and make a complete judgement on the entire thing… cos as much as I have written in this post and the last one… I really haven’t said anything. He never asked me to water myself down… I just know that he wants me to be a certain something that I can’t really be right now… and WON’T be right now… you know when someones just watching you… waiting for you to slip… lol… I’ll just stop here before I confuse you with half-realized metaphors.

Naija Vixen: lol… how come everybody thinks I’m one hard babe like that… I really am the ummm.. nicest… umm.. sweetest… softest girl you could meet… (lol… really) my dear… that’s exactly what I was trying to do… iron out… que sera sera.

SET said...

@ onb, I AGREE, WE ARE TOO DANM SPECIAL TO SETTLE FOR LESS. NO DISADVANTAGES.

catwalq said...

overwhelmed and I friends but sometimes, i don't get this chick. U took a chance to verbally brush him or what?
wetim im do u? e no know say u get perzon for here?

Afrobabe said...

Give him a chance,he is just testing ground to know what he can and cannot get away with,even babies do it.