Tuesday, June 26, 2007

My Canada

Scrubbing off the temporary tattoos I got over the weekend, it occurs to me that at this particular moment, there’s nowhere in the world I’d rather be.

Sure I love the England of my birth but I’ve been away for so long that the faces and places have become a blur.

I love the Nigeria of my childhood but it holds so many bad memories. The family I treasure most is with me now… I probably have to forgive and re-love the people I left behind before I can be completely comfortable there again.

I love the Ghana that adopted me when I needed a place to go… but eat kenke and banku as much as I want, I’ll probably always be the tall yellow foreigner who speaks Twi with a weird accent.

Then there’s Canada… the destination it seems I’ve been traveling to all my life

My Accepting and Bilingual and Cold and Diverse Canada

My Equal and Funky and Gorgeous and Humanitarian Canada

I love this country with all my heart cos it gave me a new beginning

In this country, I discovered myself.

I have never been as proud to be a citizen as when I went to the 2007 Gay Pride Parade last weekend.

I have never been attracted to a female in my life but I am glad to live in a country where another woman who so desires can choose to move in with a woman, grow a mustache, remove her tits and wear flat shoes for the rest of her life.

It’s great to live in a place that is so accepting of differences… and choices

A man can go with his buddies and buy some foundation, lipliner, stilettos and a weave longer and blonder than mine if he so pleases.

He can change his name from Lawrence to Laura, get married to Anthony or Toni and raise kids without making headline news.

In My Canada you get to be whoever you want to be

I love the fact that I get to see much more guys with sexy 6-packs and cute butts on a particular day every year than I would if I chose to go to an all-male revue every Saturday for the rest the next 6 months.

I’m glad that I can go to the parade and without words tell my same-sex-loving friends that I cherish and support them no matter if they’re attracted to Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt.

I’m glad that I live in a country where I can be as open-minded as I want to be.

Canada… My Canada

Je t’aime

54 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi angel, Dora here. Whatever happened to your 6 pack, you once spoke about earlier? still working on it?

regrading the post. What about the moral view of the parade. I saw hundreds of men wearing shirts, that said "teach kids, its OK to be Gay".
Is that the right message we want to be sending?

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Anonymous/Dora: lol...to be honest with you... the 6-pack isn’t really coming along. I was loafting around and being lazy and slacked off on the running then slacked off on the tae bo... plus my piercing is out cos I forgot I wasn’t supposed to go swimming until months after the piercing (I didn’t wait long enough so it migrated)... i’m trying to figure something else out... thinking about actually going to a gym cos I don’t have much motivation when I do stuff by myself... or when I do stuff and don’t see results in a little while... I’ll figure it out soon... I hope

Moral View of the Parade you said? Honestly I don’t read anything in a shirt that reads ‘teach kids, its ok to be gay’. My reasoning is this: most people that are gay tell us that it’s how they were born... and since there isn’t any evidence to prove otherwise... we take that for the truth (at least I do). So if someone sports a shirt saying to teach my kids that its ok to be gay... the way I interpret it is not that I have to tell my son in the future to go and kiss a little boy... but that if he has a friend at school who has two fathers or two mothers... that it’s not his place to judge them. I was at the parade myself and did not see any parents with little kids cos it obviously wasn’t an environment for little kids... so i think that t-shirt shouldn’t be taken literally. I think if you asked most gay people (and i have) they will tell you that they wish they weren’t gay... cos there’s so much prejudice and shit to deal with... and they wouldn’t want their kids to go through that either... but then again comes that issue of ‘are they born with it’ or ‘aren’t they born with it’... and I’m not even gonna go into all that cos I’m no expert... just somebody that loves my friends and love the fact that I can love and support them completely no matter who they’re attracted to. It’s a matter of perception I think Dora... literally... whatever floats your boat.

stranger said...

hi OWNB. I am a paid assassin. I kill people for the right price. I was born that way. Or, no, i grew up around my parents who were assassins too. I wish i wasn't but there is just some thrill that comes with taking someone's life. It's just my lifestyle; don't judge me please. Friends?

There is WRONG and there is RIGHT.

Thanks for stopping by. And yes, i guess i did get addicted! Can't wait for the next season. LOL.

SET said...

I AGREE, I WONDER ABOUT NOT BEING FREE UPON CONTEMPLATING MOVING TO AFRICA. I AM SO FREE OF GOSSIP AND BEING IN PEOPLE'S BUSINESS, BESIDES STARS AND BLOGVILLE, LOL. NO BUT SERIOUSLY PEOPLE NEED TO BE FREE TO BE FUFILLED.

Anonymous said...

To Overwhelmed I say, DITTO!

Peace and Love, Reader in Toronto.

p.s.@ Dora. A gay thief and a straight thief will go to the same HELL. My take on this issue is this; as long as it is between two consenting adults, it is NOT my business to judge. If two men or two women can provide a safe,nuturing home for their adopted or conceived children, more power to them.
So yes, it is OK to be gay. That is the right message.Would you rather teach kids prejudice? i assume you are naija and straight, i could be mistaken.
Remember your first male crush or series of crushes? I do. Now imagine if the face(s) you saw before you went to bed were of Funmi,Chioma and Amina. And you never went to an all girl boarding school. Now imagine yourself choking up and being nervous and feel hot whenever they were around.
You cannot imagine because you ONLY felt that way towards boys right? I hope i made my point.

snazzy said...

see i got my view of canada from canadian bacon, this view was healthily nutured by years of saturday night live watching. However I believe that this view got it's greatest expression when south park the movie came out (Blame Canada anyone?).

Seriously though... I suppose you should fill in any Canada is great comments here and assume I'll probably agree :) Laters

O.šeyï said...

I really like it! I know i heard about this on "National Public Radio" :) I'm not opposed to gays... i live in LA where Santa Monica seems to be completely populated by them. Well said... let every man be!

butterfliesandstars said...

Nigeria...My Nigeria
...i wish!...

Not really going to comment on the gay issue...as you said, whatever floats your boat, just don't judge other people too harshly based on one part of their person.

Mehn babes, get your ass, or abs straight to some gym!

Love...

Anonymous said...

about this gay issue. let me add my two cents... yes yes people are born gay.. hold on I am not done yet. reason I said so is because the bible says all are born in sin. Just like you dont teach a baby how to do bad things like lie and be rude e.t.c so are people not taught how to be gay. Its the sin factor in all of us.

Nobody taught you how to lie,gossip, or even be gay. But does The fact that you knew how to do this things naturally make them right? absolutely not. Sometimes we have a proclivity to one sin or more than the other. These peoples problems might be homosexuality while your stronghold might be lying or something else. mind you all are the same in the eyes of God. It all boils down to the fact that we need to look to the cross for help and believe in the significance of his death to rid us of the power of sin. Mind you its not and instant thing but an ungoing process. I have love for homeosexuals,liars, thiefs, murders and even myself with my own sin.I hope one day we will get to that place of freedom that God has provided thru his son. God bless

Anonymous said...

On this issue I was probably like most Africans thinking it is wrong till my little brother was born.

He was born in the early 90’s and soon after in London a doctor discovered he had both internal reproductive organs, although he clearly only had a male organ on the outside.

When he was two years old he was operated on to remove his internal female reproductive organs. The doctor told my parents is was the right and easiest way to go. He has never been told.

I see my brother growing up and acting more like a girl than a boy. I see a very confused teen emerging and have been urging my parents to tell him the truth.

It seems that removing the organs did nothing to change who he really is.

According to the doctors this happens very often except nobody talks about it.

Just as it happened with him it can happen with chemical and hormonal levels not easily seen and operated on.

I truly believe they are born that way, let us love and respect our differences.

Faithful reader,

Adjoa

Omosewa said...

Canada rocks eh:D

Kpakpando said...

you can be anyone you want to be in America... just keep it to yourself. Canada is just another northern state, e nu go? :p

Omolola said...

Canada rocks ke!!!I was gonna go to school there but the place was just too boring mahn,had to leave kia kia.
As for the gay issue,personally i think its just a bad habit that is formed at some point in life and u seem to just adapt to it.there aint nobody born gay ooo.that 1 na lie jare...
PS:Thanks for stopping by my blogg

Pink-satin said...

nice post! refreshing and honest
for me it is
NIGERIA MY NIGERIA!

Kafo said...

if only it wasn't sooo cold

Patrice said...

Your blog in which you declared your Canadian citizenship may have been the first one that I ever read. As a born and bred Torontonian, and at the risk of sounding sentimental, let me say that you make me a proud Canadian. May our country be blessed with more Overwhelmeds. Now, get me on the first flight out of here . . . I appreciate my country more from abroad.

@Anonymous 2:17 - Are you equating homosexuality with lying and thievery?

Patrice said...

Correction, the last part of my earlier comment was aimed at Anonymous 12:52. Sorry 2:17. This looks a bit like a bible passage reference.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

Stranger:I honestly don’t understand how you’d equate being gay with being a paid assasin. One is having consenting sex with an adult… and the other one is commiting a murder which I’m sure the victim did NOT consent to. I can’t say I understand your analogy at all

Set: lmao… you’re hilarious… rawk on mami

Anonymous: EXACTLY!!!

Snazzy: lol… I have no words for you Mr. I’ve heard of the Canadian maple syrup one and Ice hockey… but Canadian bacon?!?! Lol… you’re a total weirdo!

O’seyi: Yes mami… I agree

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

Butterfliesandstars: lol… I will…

Anonymous: So in otherwords you’re telling me that if I’d written a post titled… “I told my mom that I’m going to the grocery store… but I really was going shoe shopping” you’d have posted a similar comment?

Adjoa: thanks for sharing darling… God bless you and your brother… most people don’t even get to know ‘why’… and you’re right… it’d be great if we could all ‘love and respect others differences’… have a great day gorgeous

Omosewa: YOU KNOW IT!!!

Kpakpando: ehn ehn… me I don’t want to hear that… Canada is a better version of AMErica and don’t you forget it… lol

omolola: Ah ahn… all this ‘un-canadian’ sentiment on a proud canadian’s blog… which one now? Which province you been go live cos some of them like nova scotia and prince Edward island are completely dead except your family has lived there for generations or something… but some are live and popping like Quebec, Ontario… babe you went to the wrong places I think.

Pink-satin: Hello my darling… how are you?! Perhaps when I finally go back to Nigeria to visit… I’d be able to write a post on Nigeria my Nigeria… but I’m not at that place right now… we’ll see what happens…

Kafo: Its blistering hot in the summer… oya come down and enjoy!plus you get used to the cold after a while

Patrice: Did you mean that mine was the first ‘Canadian’ blog you ever read or that my Canadian citizenship post was the first one you ever read on my blog? YAY… you know I love me my Canadians… rock on gorgeous… lol… ngwa supply your bank details… I will transfer the money necessary to complete your um… travelling transaction.
About the anonymous… I honestly didn’t write this to engage in ‘homosexual’ debate… the post was more about my pride in my country… I’m not in the mood to do back and forths… at least not right now… how you doing though? Its been a while

Patrice said...

I meant that yours is the first blog I ever read, starting with the Canadian citizenship post (if not that post then another that you published around the same time).

P.S. Ah, don't mind the Canada criticism. They're just jealous because we have so much fresh water . . . In ten years they'll be lining up at our doorstep just to get a sip. We'll find them a comfy igloo up in Nunavut.

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Uzo said...

I have never been attracted to a female in my life but I am glad to live in a country where another woman who so desires can choose to move in with a woman, grow a mustache, remove her tits and wear flat shoes for the rest of her life.

See that statement right there is hilarious...LOL...I dont know why but i cant imagine why i would want to grow a mustache?

Loving this....

azuka said...

Hmmm, Canada. I'm going to live there someday. Maybe Newfoundland...

Naija Vixen said...

awww! im sure canada loves you ryt back...it must be the love...that place is mighty cold!

Idemili said...

Hehheheheheh! LAWL. Great post

temmy tayo said...

Was thinking of relocating to Canada but when I think about the cold........... i'd rather stay in the UK.

Ms zee said...

I think it is a generation thing... I did a write up entitled the forgiving generation and i am too lazy to look for it... I think we are open minded and not afraid to ask all the questions that would make my parents and grandparents cringe and accept the so called "taboos".....

I have to run again.. Meeting in a few mins.... take care boo

UnNaked Soul said...

hey babe... I heard your voice from that my sweet razz babe blog (catwalq) and hope she no go read this...LOL

no long thing...

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Patrice: you know ur one of my favourite non-blogger commenters if not the favourite. (it’s something about the fact that I know somewhere in this great nation of ours… you’re drinking something from Tim Hortons… and possibly know the lyrics to our ‘O Canada’
Lol… me I already know they’re jealoux… don’t mind them jare… abeg just grab an ice cappuccino and cool body… lol

@An Ibo dude’s corner: lol… I’m not surprised to read that from you

@Blogville Idols:wow.. it’s almos come to a close… we go vote for sure… love you guys…

@Uzo: lmao… neither would I… the mustache or the flat shoes…. or the moving with another woman either… but hey… at least the people who actually want to… get to.

@Azuka: Newfoundland ke? She o wa alright… abi you love to fish?! Abeg come the happening cities and come and experience multicultural life…

@Naija Vixen: lol… it does… I’m their blogville ambassador… lol… you people just dey yarn this cold cold stuff.. it really isn’t that bad… trust me… if not me I for don dry up by now…

@Idemili: lol at this lawl stuff… thanks mami… hope ur doing good…

@temmytayo: ngwa relocate… enough with this cold stuff… I know you have some sweaters… lol… you live in england dude… whey e dey rain 24/7… take a walk on the wild side…

@Ms. Zee: oh I’d love to read that write-up… is it on blogger or it was a school thing? But yeah it’s great to be able to question things… and be open-minded… have fun at ur meeting(if that’s even possible)

@Unnaked Soul: lol… I’m gonna telllllllllllllllllllllllllll… I miss that babe sha… I’m going to go and bug her soon… even you self… we never see your eye long time… abi ur still busy doing ‘unnaked things’ *Wink* lol

catwalq said...

Odikwa!!!

catwalq said...

see how unnaked just offed my cloth in the public place.
so, i am now razz
chei!!!!
na wah o

exschoolnerd said...

Lovely entry..i quite liked it.

The Professor said...

How do those temporary tattoes work? There's someone I might try to convince to get some ;-)

chidi said...

never been to cananda before but heard there aren't much balcks. is that true? will like to visit there some days. I've been to ghana as well, but didn't much like it because i felt they have something against nigerian people

Anonymous said...

thats crazyyy!!! im happy u luv this place...i love me some nig!!!

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Anonymous said...

may god bless ur soul

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Anonymous said...

Good you have temporary tattoos. Wish i'd taken that initiative when i had my 7 done years ago (boob, lower back, ankle, butt, arm...)...aw men, how full of regret can i now be...Your blog sounds interesting. Have been up all night checking Ubong da's & need a breather now, so would be back later 2nite 2 check it out in detail. Stay cool gal.

from Calabar gal's friend.

beautyinbaltimore said...

I think Canada is more openminded than the US.
I was suppose to go to pride here in Baltimore but I didn't make it. There is always next year.

Naija Vixen said...

Kai...update now!!!

Everyone Loves a Naija Girl said...

You are a gifted writer. Glad you have a lot to be proud about. Never forget to count your blessings :-)

lilmissfara said...

OVERWHELMED..im back..its EXCESSIVE-DIVA.got a new blog now..as i said forgot my old password.
so join me on my blog and say hello.
love ya
Mo

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Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Catwalq: lmao@offed … this babe you’re an unserious human being for real…but unnaked self you go seriously take your time oh… this stush chick na she you dey call razz?! Lol

@Exschoolnerd: thanks darling… how you doing? I’ll come by your blog now and see wassup… I have a few minutes…

@The Professor: you um put them on your skin and put a bit of water on it and press it into your skin… and a minute or so later… the image appears… funny enough after putting those on for an entire day/weekend… I came to the realization that I’m more into piercings than tattoos… although if I ever was going to get a tattoo… I’d get one on my neck…

@Chidi: I honestly thought that when I stepped into the country… but mingle a little and you’d find out that there actually are a lot of black people… very nice too… Ghanaians are really nice… but then again I’m a honorary Ghanaian so I might be prejudiced…

@Anonymous: checked out your blog… love you lots... I’ll definitely come back there soon…

@blogville idols:CONGRATULATIONS DSCRIBE>> YOU ROCK!!!

@Anonymous: I guess it probably is a good idea to get a temporary first.. and if you really love it and want to have it forever… get it permanent… funny enough after mine… I realized I don’t want one anymore… I’m just waiting till I can get my eyebrow pierced(when my mom will let up… and let me… lol)… If I ever decided to get a tattoo… I want Chinese writing on my back… I actually think some tattoos on some people are really sexy though… thanks for stopping by darling…

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Beautyinbaltimore: Yup… Canada is more openminded than the US… and you’re right… there is always next year…

@Naija Vixen: lol… I will… soon…

@Everyone Loves a Naija Girl: Thanks my darling… welcome back into the scene… it’s been a while…

@lilmissfara: ahhh my big sis is backkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk… see me breaking into a hugeeee smile oh… love it… I’ve already been on the new blog… luvssss it… I’m definitely coming back every other hour to check for updates… hehe… welcome back egbon

@tony: not a problem… I’ll check it out… and give you some feedback… sounds like a great idea…

Calabar Gal said...

Hmmnn.....

Omar Ramon said...

DANG I WANNA MOVE TO CANADA!! lol

Nah really that was beautiful. You've been around , isn't great to feel at home?!?!?

Thanx for your words, I'm glad that I could be of some inspiration to a person as cool as you! Truly a compliment!

LonelierThanAkon said...

luvin ur luv4canada

The Last King Of Scotland said...

canada seems to be the ish. im moving over, lol, for the job opportunites

Teediva said...

i thot i had an open mind until i met someone who had openly admitted to being gay. there was always a wrinkle on my forehead when i saw him...now i dont know anymore. i ask myself that question too, are they born with it or do they get it from somewhere?

princess said...

The law of nature is very easy to understand, even animals respect it so why not we humans who claim to be more intelligent.
Thanks for popping in my blog.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Calabar Gal: lol… how you doing gorgeous?! I will have a tiny fitness announcement to make hopefully soon… y’all have inspired me… you, Vicki, buki… etc

@Omar: lol… you should… Canada rocks!!! I haven’t really been around that much… I plan to travel the world when I can… love you lots darling… keep on keeping on… you’re a great writer

@lonelierthanakon: lol… it’s been a while oh… this man self… wetin dey keep you so busy these days?!

@the last king of Scotland: yezz it is… lol.. if you’re sure it’s for the opportunities… lol… I will put in a word with the prime minister… we’re in the same ummmm… book club?!

@teediva: lol@a wrinkle on your forehead…this babe you’re somehow funny! I don’t really care sha… whatever works for anybody… I just love when people have the opportunity to be who they want to be…

@princess: EXACTLy… oh I think I came by your blog when you just came on… I’ve been a lazy bum… haven’t updated my blog roll yet… so it’s a little hard sometimes finding certain ppl that I wanna check out… I’ll definitely stop by again though… have a great week gorgeous…

Lola said...

yay!!! canada's making a comeback!