Monday, June 18, 2007

Mummy Sunday 16

Mummy,

I love you with all my heart but sometimes you drive me argghhh!!! I can imagine it’s probably not easy for you to accept this

… But you’re going to have to…

I’m 21

Not 1 or 11… 21

Old enough to choose to take a plane to Paris and go sight-seeing by myself

Old enough to get married and have a dozen kids if I so pleased

Old enough to go out and come home later than 11pm without getting locked out and having you document what minute of what hour I get in

I know you’ve done your best

In your lifetime, you’ve been through things that would make a lesser woman crumble

You’ve fought for yourself, you’ve fought for me… you’ve fought

But it’s time to just sit back and breathe mummy

You’ve raised me well enough that you should trust that I can take care of myself sometimes… that I have some common sense, discretion… some smarts

You can’t protect me from life mummy cos if you do… it’ll sneak up on me

And maybe then I won’t be prepared.

I’m 21 mummy… let me breathe.

51 comments:

My 2 cents said...

Nne,
Take it real easy with ur mums, but they are fashioned to be a pain sometimes.
You can't understand it till you have kids someday.

LittleGirlLost said...

Old enough to go out and come home later than 11pm without getting locked out and having you document what minute of what hour I get in

Parents find letting go hard. Sometimes you ave to force it by breaking away.
I'm 27 and when I'm at home I have to abide by the 'her house her rules' rule.
My mother will shout at me like I'm 12 when I break her rules. It sucks but respect it. I just make sure she knows who's boss when she comes to mine ;).

Henry said...

awww, its too bad because thats the way a lot of parents look at things...
they believe if they don't 'protect' you from life it'll eat you up, whereas the actual outcome defeats the purpose..
Paternal instincts are a strange one to understand..
Good luck with that.

nameless.poetical. said...

welcome to my life hun, iv bin there before. all in all, she's just lookng out for your interests in the long run. you'l come to see it in due time. but in the mean time, grin and bear it. enjoy it while you can, but at the same time, let her know that you're not a child. just dont yell at her or anything, cos she's just looking out for you..
1 love...
nameless

Olówó said...

E go be, regardless of whether you are 21 0r 81, they never let go. She will still try to protect you from life regardless...it's imprinted in the mummy dna

butterfliesandstars said...

It couldn't have been put better. Understand the feeling. Wrote something similar about a year ago. It's very frustrating when they stifle - even though we know its out of love.

Does ur mum read ur blog?

Love...

mochafella said...

In Mama OWNB's voice:

Nonsense, until you pay your own rent you shall do as I say.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@my2cents: yeah i am taking it easy.. its frustrating sometimes though

@littlegirllost: i try... my mom and i have a great relationship mostly... but she still doesn't see that i'm not a little girl anymore... i'm ok with that sometimes but i do need some space every once in a while

@Henry: Thanks angel... i need it... cos things aren't so great right now...

@ nameless poetical: thanks hun... i'll try

@Olowo: i understand that 85% of the time.. its just the other 15.. u know

@butterfliesandstars:nah she doesn't... maybe one day in the future i'll print out some stuff for her seeing as she's never really read anything personal i wrote before(at least i havent shown her any)

@mochafella: lol... you're finding my trouble oh... how you doing angel?

Nigerican said...

I had a talk like this with my mom when i was 22 and believe me she is much better at giving a little breathing space .Actually my mom respects me as an adult but always reminds me that i am and wil always be her baby.

SET said...

SOMEONE NEEDS TO TAKE IT EASY O. OUR PARENTS HMMMM I CAN'T HAVE THEM ANY OTHER WAY. BUT THEY ARE TROUBLESOME.

Naijadude said...

This is not the ideal time for solitude, this is not the time for being rebellious. Parents, mostly Nigerian parents, tend to hold on for so long, they know better, they have more experience than we do. They are not sometimes right, they are ALWAYS right!

More groundnut for your garri my huni! But watch for the parents, they wont let go even when we are married!

Anonymous said...

I could not resist doing this...

OWNB:I’m 21

MAMA O:If you like be 51 and half

OWNB:Old enough to get married and have a dozen kids if I so pleased

MAMA O:Have fourteen if you like,but only after thay have come to pay your brideprice

OWNB:Old enough to go out and come home later than 11pm without getting locked out and having you document what minute of what hour I get in

Mama O:When you have your own house, if you like sleep in the gutter,until then, this is my house and I will lock my doors and "throway" the keys at 11pm sharp

Mama O:Bia this girl,is it because we are in Canada or because you can see the top of my head...(hiss)in short, FIRE! bring my scholl slippers,gbo osiso...

OWNB, let me know how this ends.

Kafo said...

i'm with mochafella, i've heard that line too many times that i am 2 seconds away from getting my own place


good luck girl

Childfree Chick said...

Way to take a stand honey!

Maybe you should really send this to your mom?

Anonymous said...

SIN said...

till you pay some bills
you still a kid

lost-not yet found said...

Parents would be parents my dear... on the other hand, imagine if she totally ignored you and left you alone... and as strange as it may sound to you now, 90% of the time, parents do know better...

Anonymous said...

R u kiddn me! Am 32 and any dress less dan 3inches below my knees is short (picture disapproving-bothering on-despair look)for my mom. Hahahaha! and me, i no dey gree for mouth o, so u can imagine d fire works! Good thing is, i live 4hrs away from her so, we no dey too see. I used to "edit" my clothes before going home to make sure i meet her approval. Now, as i don grow reach, wen she talks, i can bone her (No try am unless u pay ur own bills.heheehehe)

Hang in dia, e go beta

Uzo said...

And she probably will never let you be...LOL....

LondonBuki said...

Can you really blame her? Maybe she's thinking of things she witnessed when she was your age...

Take it easy dear.

Have a beautiful week.

36 INCHES OF BROWN LEGS said...

Lol. we never really grow up in the eyes of our parents, my mum was still going on the other day about me coming in at 11pm?? My dad just looked at her and laughed, saying no b small e reamin for u to marry wey ur mama dey shout???? lol.

Calabar Gal said...

Hope she's faring better now and is fully recovered from th ebout of ill health she had.

She will sit down and breathe - when you're 41 or older not 21. LOL!!

chidi said...

all paerents need to be told this. They think that they have to protet you from everything but that does not work. When you let a child touch fire, it will know never to go near fire agin. Let them let us live our own lives.

Omar Ramon said...

well said...i think most folk with parents that give damn go hrough this to some degree.

Bluntremi said...

Eh...
I understand how you feel.
But take it from a parent...its sometimes hard to let go. We mean well...
Its only because she worries about you and LOVES you dearly...

Freaky Deaky said...

Forgive my ignorance but I was wondering is your moms behavior a cultural thing or is she just a bit over protective?

I think you're old enough to tell her how you feel and old enough for her to listen. Just my two cents.

Jaja said...

Funny girl!

I'm certain your children will write their about you: To mummy, Time to release that Vice-like grip.

Loving parents try but find it hard to let go totally..

You r lucky!

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TaureanMinx said...

lol@anonymous. I'm older and sstill need my parents to let me breathe when I live with them.

laspapi said...

Storm, hold on to patience, use perspective. To the regular mother, age 21 means little. To yours who had to wade thro' thorns and thistles to retain you, it must mean absolutely nothing. Speak to her, easily, carefully, without anger. She'll understand soon.

boorish male said...

Dont sweat it, just bear it for the time being......

Ms zee said...

ahhhh the good days of being 21 and thinking I could do whatever I wanted and be whoever I chose to be... darn....

take it easy mami..

NaijaBloke said...

So am ur ex-husband now abi ..no wahala now ...

Am good o sweetheart,just been busy up to my nose here,but can't complain.Hope u r good sha?

SapphireAster said...

Lol Overwhelmed I so feel you. It would be so weird if I had to live at home all over again..not that I am a bad child o. Anyways I guess its all love still sha.
On another note, ONB, dont you think we should talk to Pinkpeke Productions about a possible show called "So You Think You Can Makosaa?" hehe

stranger said...

mommy's never really get this. u will always be their lil' girl...concerning your comment on my blog, but you knew that already girlfriend, remember? i have been silent but around.

stranger said...

am glad u stopped by again, though.

Anonymous said...

How come nobody has mentioned “MO” of Canada’s next top model. She is Nigerian for God’s sake. Show some support Naija Canadians. I do not own a blog. I’m off to watch. It is on CityTV so EVERYONE can watch.

catwalq said...

please don't give mummy a heart attack o
she just loves u

Chameleon said...

are you 21...???
baby girl, ur a baby oh....
please listen to your mum, only she TRULY has your best interests at heart.

Discombobulated Diva said...

my dear, parents are like there everywhere... here i am going on 25, and my parents still are on my back... but i must admit they eased up once i was finished with school and things of that sort... give your mum a break, eventually she'll see the adult you have become... also try your best to reassure her that she has instilled all the right quailties on you and now you have to learn things on your own... once i had that discussion with my day, they started to ease up on me...

i simply told them that you've done all you can do for me, you have to trust that i will be that responsible person that you've raised me to be and that I will make the best decisions based on all the values you have instilled in me... my parents were so surprised at my appraoch towards them and since then life has been good... and yes i do live at home with my parents, so i totally understand...

~DD

Jem said...

lol... take it easy. The real truth is that once you live under the roof of someone, that person sets the rules and you just gotta stick with it. Later, who knows... you may be doing the same for someone staying with you. It happens

omolola said...

Damn girrrl!Only 21....dats d age where u think u know it all.Abeg listen to ur mums,sure she wants d best 4 u...lurvv ur 21 ass blogg...lol

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LurLar said...

i can relate oh my sis........Nigerian parents don't just get it sometimes. It's either they hold you for too long,or dnt hold or care about you at all. Well......u go just take am easy,by letting her know how you feel, nd you can do this when she is not tensed or you are not tensed. I don talk to my mama million times, but she just dnt get it...she needs constant reminders.take care jare.

Naija Vixen said...

Babes...dont worry,mumsie cares ni o...whether you are 21,31,41....she's gonna always think you cant handle it...it's love...you know it babes!

Thoughts Aloud said...

Sorry girl, but I gotta break it to you.As long as you still live under her roof, you've got to abide by her rules.Besides, it's only a mother's love- they worry.When you become one yourself, u'd understand much much better.Be safe honey!

Adeolu said...

I guess you still need to live by your mum's rule if you still share the same roof.
One thing is certain her words of wisdom will always be useful to you, and you will get to appreciate them when you start raising your own children.

Kpakpando said...

nene nwatakili di ka gi. TAAAAA MECHIONU GI. Your mom cares about you and wants to protect you as much as she possibly can... its not realistic but realize her smothering comes from a place of love. Life is tough, you know that already, she just wants to keep you from all the hurts she's been through dear girl.

AAAAAAAND 21 is still a baby, na Canada dey give you wings abi :) Kpachakwa anya gi o (Smile)

Jaycee said...

lollll...dearieee...I know mummies can be tough sometimes, try and sit her down and talk to her...explain things to her on a gentle note. But be careful, mothers have experienced a lot too (even what u're experiencing now), so I know she's also being protective of you because she knows the dangers out there. But if both of you have a gentle conversation...I'm sure she'll listen to u...(imagine urself as a mummy too now, lol)...

~Muah~

beautyinbaltimore said...

You know parents struggle to let go. A lot of them try to live their dreams through us. Others want us to take advantage of all of the opportunites that are availble. Many of these opportunites were not available for them.

BiMbyLaDs** said...

one of my fav bloggers u r. u write excellently.

mum loves u and thats why shes findin it hard to let go. My mum hangs on to me with all her life too.. it can b choking but i know its love...

keep on writin babe, u WRITE WELL

o.šeyï said...

Girlll...i'm right there with you. I have realized though that mummies have to do the worrying for us so that we are subconsciously put in check. I LURVE the way you write. well done.