Sunday, April 01, 2007

Unwelcome Surprise

On my way home on Friday afternoon, I was talking to my best friend Naijadyme. You wouldn't believe who hopped on the bus halfway through my journey...

Kimor

My heart stopped

I don't remember ever being that uncomfortable in my entire life. It was so weird cos that was the last thing I expected... funny enough, Naijadyme and I had just been talking about him.

As he walked down the bus aisle, my heart thumped... and thumped... and thumped

I hoped he wouldn't see me... I shifted towards the windowand kept a deathly silence on the phone... I didn't want want him to recognize my voice.,

Seeing him for the first time since our breakup I felt neither joy nor pain... just discomfort. I just wished I'd taken the bus before or after...

He didn't see me... he walked past me.

10 minutes later, I was still chatting with Naijadyme when a voice called out:

"Overwhelmed"

I turned and it was Kimor... He was about to leave the bus. He turned to me

"Hey Overwhelmed wassup?"

I looked at him for a second and then looked away

He got off the bus

I'll be fine...

{Thanks for all the concern for me and my mom. We're both fine... she's much better... just taking a little time off to recuperate. I am simply taking it day by day... surrounding myself with great friends, fun times and happy thoughts. I'm alright... I really appreciate you guys... how much you'll never know}

40 comments:

LondonBuki said...

Yeah you will be... x

Anonymous said...

na wa ooo...so the breakup is for real??

Anonymous said...

can you imagine If you both saw each other. lol thats crazy. better sooner than later. hope you were looking hot

In Her Mind said...

for real, i dont know what to say again. hmm

In Her Mind said...

okay so am i third or what????? say yessss

Anonymous said...

that mutha fucker is gonna live long. there you are talking about him and he shows up.I WOULD've GOTTEN up N SMACK HIM.oooohh 9MONTH OF THE BEST RELATIONSHIP. now u pass each other as strangers
I CAN'T BELIEVE THATS ALL HE HAD TO SAY. he a mystery man

Waffarian said...

I am just sorry it had to end like this, hope you are okay!

Anonymous said...

So Ok i don't check up on ONB for a few days and you've gone from, SPANK ME PLEASE,Paddles, blindfolds,handcuffs and all that
TO WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR MOM...
Ps Am really sorry hope she a'right
TO YOUR BOYFRIEND BREAKING UP WIT U
all in the span of a few days.I SAY HE CAN'T GET AWAY LIKE THAT.if u have to lure him. i say DO IT and Handcuff him, blindfold him, and U beat the hell oF HIM. I WISH I WAS IN YOUR POSITION. TALK ABOUT RELEASE THERAPY

Calabar Gal said...

I pray your mum recovers fully and about kmor - you will heal girl. With time you will heal.

Anonymous said...

ironic... you met on a bus... its ended on a bus. pele...

Anonymous said...

I LIKE THE SECOND-TO-LAST ANONYMOUS
COMMENT. ALLWAYS SOMETHING NEW WITH ONB. BUT I DON'T AGREE ON LETTING HIM GO. I THINK THE CHOICE SHOULD B ALL YOURS. NOT SWAYED BY HATEFUL COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR BF. ATFER ALL EVERYTHING WAS PERFECT UP UNTIL NOW.

Ineka said...

Damn, I know JUST how you felt. Heart pounding 'n' shit...
Wooosah!!!
Babe, everything go dey alright.

Poetic Justice said...

It get's easier. I have yet to see my ex since we broke up 6 years ago...

Take it easy on yourself by healing and dealing with the emotions (or lack thier of). It's good that you are surrounding yourself with friends.

Jaycee said...

U'll def be fine dear...glad ur mommy is doing better now...

Have a blessed week sweets!!!

Im A Babe said...

how awkward! uld be fine my dear

Nyemoni said...

Pheew..so it wsn't an April fools joke... My dear... THIS TOO SHALL PASS... stay blessed...

Yosh said...

Just read your "break up" post. It's so sad, and at the same time scary that when you think you've got something, it might as well just be so transient that you cannot put in words.

I'm glad you are handling it well though, and rightly so: Being around positive people, supportive friends, being active, it'd help you think less about it and sink into the blues.

1!

Surviving with Truth said...

why is it that when you have little 'incidents" with people, you tend to run into them? thats odd, isnt it? anyway ma dear, you handled it well. getting up to slap him would've given him the impression that he was worth your anger, your strength and your time. Simply ignoring him tells him a whole lot more- that you are upset but have chosen to be a little more matured about it, and that he simply isnt welcomed.
Now, dont forget that the choice remains yours. None of us ever got to meet, feel, love and see the good sides of Kimor like you did, likewise, none of us got to feel the pain of the things he said/did during the breakup. If you choose to stay away from him forever, thats your choice. If you choose to suddenly get up tomorrow and go over to his place to fuck his brains out, thats also ur choice. Just a little reminder, you're allowed to make mistakes, but hopefully, you do as your heart and mind agrees...
good OWNB

chika said...

you are right on course gurl,just keep the doing the things that make you happy.........u'd be just fine!

omohemi Benson said...

You'll be fine babe,
Don't worry.
Thank God your mom is fine.

Kpakpando said...

ooo!!!! STONE him next time jare. I want you to keep 5 nice sized pebbles with you at all times, so in case of incasities like this you're well prepared. Hope you are doing well given all that's going on.

@lbuki this you "first, first first ehn, one day i will catch up with you

Simply Gorgeous said...

What did he actually expect your reaction to be?? I think you will be ok too..

Anonymous said...

This is life. Break ups happen...a dime a dozen. You are young. Many more years(AMEN!). You live and learn. Welcome to the human experience.I hope I don't sound callous as that is not my intent. I'm just saying you'll move on and you'll be fine. All the best.

Idemili said...

Dayum, girl!!!LOL. Serves him right though.

zaiprincesa said...

OMG mami!!...im just catching up on ur last few posts..and just read about the breakup. r u ok??..It go better....Its his loss babes...It go better, for real. Hope ur mom is doin ok...

londonnaijachic said...

am sorry gurl and hope mom recovers really fast...What was he expecting you to say or do when he called your name?YOU ARE DOING ALL THE RIGHT THINGS and with time, you'll get better

Freaky Deaky said...

I'm glad you're okay and your mom is doing better.

Beyond said...

heyya, sorry , so your break up is for real. Take it easy o, e go better.

Favoured Girl said...

Gosh that must have been awkward. Hope you are keeping strong babe. And I'm glad your mum is much better.

Anonymous said...

i hope your doing fine. please keep us updated. waiting on the next post. how's mommy?

Anonymous said...

its been officially a yr since my bf of 6yrs (best friend of 8yrs) and I broke up, and my dear I'm smiling and laughing now. Its my 1yr anniversary of revelation and victory. You will overcome

UnNaked Soul said...

sorry baby that this river has run dry... oya go to the ocean of love... *wink*

it's all what it is... shake it off

goodluck ;-)

temmy tayo said...

It is well with u bes. Take one day at a time.

Uzo said...

So this breakup is for real? Wow

Noni Moss said...

I totally get what you mean by your heart thumping as he was walking by. And please I'ms ure he saw you from the start but only had the balls to speak as he was leaving. Your response was super APT. Dont worry - it will get better with time - and he wont able to affect you in any way any more.

Kafo said...

big ups to you
the fact that u could ignore the kid is wonderful

Soul said...

smile aburo...
Just smile. If you see him again and he says anything to you.. Just smile. (even if it's killing you).
Smile and look away.

When you remember the good times.. smile.. acknowledge the love you felt and probably still feel for this man. smile

When you remember the disappointment and the lack of care he showed you and what was important to you.... Smile, because it is a divine blessing that this side of Kimor has been revealed now and not at a later time when you would really have needed him.

aburo, I know it sounds crazy.. but really.. just smile, cos you and kimor had good and bad times and its part of your story...
his part in it is done. He doesn't have anything else to offer you. That's not a failing of either of you, it just is.

So when you see him again, smile.
You don't have to entertain him, you don't have to stand around and chat with him, just smile and keep it moving.

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

All is well huney. Just hang in there. It always feels that when it rains it really pours, but you'll soon mend. Great to hear your mum is well. Thank God for that. Have a super week.

yankeenaijachick said...

Really, u broke up........am so sorry to hear that.

Sparkle said...

yes you will be fine...if u get his pictures or something, make u burn d whole thing, delete his yeye number, I'm sure i've done that already

and all he had to say was, Overwhelmed wassup?
WOW
funny how ppl hurt others and try to act as if nothing happened
to hell with him and his greetings
you will be fine!