Friday, January 26, 2007

Mummy Sunday 9

Inspired by one of my favorite bloggers LondonBuki, this is my ninth Mummy Sunday post!!! I dedicate it to all those who believe in us… with your wings, we can fly.


Next Stop: London, England

My mother had a dream of going to England for as long as she could remember. She’d told her parents countless times, but of course she was from a poor family, so it was almost unthinkable. They simply couldn’t afford it… and even if they could…it would probably have made more sense to send her older brother Okoro instead.


My mom did everything in her power to convince her parents otherwise… studied harder, helped out around the house more, anything to prove how ‘disciplined’ she was…


An opportunity came through after her high school education and they decided to let her follow her dream… They’d send her to London for her post-secondary studies.

Numerous friends and family members objected… because she was female and would only study to benefit her future husband.

A few guys were asking for her hand in marriage at the time but she wouldn’t even consider it because she had decided that nothing would keep her from her “British Dream”.

Her parents were ridiculed for allowing her to reject such ‘wealthy suitors’…


It’s been over two decades, but her parents have never once regretted that decision.

She proved to them that anything a male can do… a female can do just as well


So the marriage thing with Papa Overwhelmed never worked out… but she has two amazing children to show for it

She’s made sure her parents are in comfort for the rest of their natural lives… how’s that for a ‘female’?


I just wanted to send a big shoutout to my Grandpa… the old-school feminist.

Happy Wedding Anniversary Papa Nnukwu

42 comments:

Belle said...

Papa Nnukwu ROCKS!!!

Nice post girl :)

angie said...

Granpapi overwhelmed, Happy anniversary!!!
Hope u get to see grandad often?

In my head and around me said...

Gosh! That was bold of your grandparents. In those days, people (especially Igbo's) took things like that really seriously. I mean, why waste your money on a girl or lead her to believe that she will be more than just a wife? They must have been the butt of the community's jokes.

Question is: Who's laughing now?

P.S: What happened to Okoro?

Vera Ezimora said...

Overwhelmed, are we by any chance using different calandars..cause I'm still in Friday and u've already reached sunday... abi are you still on the past sunday?

I'm glad ur momsie was given a chance sha. Even better is the fact that she did not fail them.

I wouldn't walk around saying ur mom got you as a good thing out of the marriage sha. I can only imagine her stress 4 having a child like u. It has 2 be difficult, lol.

ceecy29 said...

It's not sunday, is it? LOL!!!

There's nothing like having a dream and then being blessed with people to support you through it.

Great post!

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

Dont you love it when you have such as grand dad - imagine what his friends would have said to him. Throwing insults to his face, but no he believed in the equality of women. Your grand dad is da best.

Happy Anniversary Papa Nnukwu!!!!!!

Naijadude said...

I love ur Papa Nnukwu jare! He's d old-sch feminist. tell him he rocks!!!

But come to think of it oh! its still friday afternoon at my other end of the world oh!

Uju N. said...

Funny you mentioned this, so so true. I look at my grandmother and she was a midwife in her days which was supposedly big time right? So she went to one of the good teaching hospitals but her brothers on the other hand went on to law schl and medical schl in the US in the 1950s, and there was no way it would have been for her as a woman to do that. How can, a woman is supposed to marry and give birth, and God forgive her if she doesnt have a male child!

Kai my people.
I've seen it time and time again where in many families, the men end up beng spoiled and its the women who end up doing way better and helping their family out. Happy anniversary Papa Nnukwu! Thank God for nwa gi nwanyi!!!

Nilla said...

ONB

How come it's sunday for you????

Anyways, Happy aninvesary to your grandpa!

azuka said...

Same old argument. Put the boys in school and leave the girls out. I'm glad your grandparents chose to follow the less traveled path.

Come, me I don't understand this anymore. Vera conjured some chicken pox on Tminx, then stole Boorish Male. Is it because you're now fighting back that you got temporary amnesia?

We need to investigate that girl.

Abeg it's Friday here oh!

Through these eyes said...

Just stopping by to show some luv. Hope ur doing ok. How's the bf?

UnNaked Soul said...

Happy Annivasary Granpa Nnukwu!!! I'm most inspired!!!

temmy tayo said...

Bon Anniversaire to Papa Nnukwu!

Anthony Arojojoye said...

LOL @ Papa Overwhelmed.

Jaycee said...

Lollll...loved this post. Your mummy was so determined...

Happy anniversary grandpapa overwhelmed...(lol)...

mack said...

Courage is the word... Your grand parent do rock, and they have balls of steel too.

*BTW: It's 'nnekwu' in central igbo! what is wrong with these people sef* never mind...

londonnaijachic said...

happy wedding anniversary to ur nan and grandpa.

Mari said...

lovely post ONB! Your mom sure did her parents proud.

beautyinbaltimore said...

I'm glad that your Grandparents were able to stand up to the presure from "those who know everything" .

laspapi said...

(I'm singing & prancing around the room) Happy birthday to Grand-Da', Storm.

Here's a lesson in History too- At some point in areas of Nigeria, long before you and I were even a glimmer in either parent's eye, the land was a matriarchal society where women were the strong ones, worked, were more frugal and had wealth.

The legends of Moremi, Amina and the female soldiers of Dahomey that repeatedly raided the western regions of Nigeia for slaves didn't come about by chance.

So here's to strong women like your mother. And to your fiery spirit too.

Daddy's Girl said...

It's really great that you're celebrating your mother's strength and the support she received - you really should be proud.

I saw a news story on the Nigerians in Diaspora thing you attended the other day - kept looking hard at the faces and trying to guess if one of them was yours!!

babzent said...

much luv to ur gramps o. a toast to many more years of luv

Favoured Girl said...

Cool post! Big ups to the parents that appreciate the value of their children: whether they are male or female!

The Mistress said...

Sweet...hope they have a great anniversary!

LondonBuki said...

Happy Anniversary to Grandpa Nnukwu!!!

Love this post, as always!

Nyemoni said...

Grandpa Unukwu, Happy Anniversary! Nice post... maybe you could turn this into a book or summin? :-)

Omohemi Benson said...

Up Pa Nnukwu,
Happy Anniversary Nnayi,
May we have more of Papa Nnukwu in our society.

Thank God for a strong grand daughter like you,
who is changing the world.

Uzo said...

Took a lot for your grandparents to make that decision....Happy birthday sir....

Elle Woods said...

Dunno why but i really love this post.
Happy Anniversary!

Vera Ezimora said...

Where has this girl gone 2?

Seyi Craig said...

Hi ONB,
I stumbled on your blog a couple of days ago and i must admit i am most impressed at your writing- the manner of construction and presentation of words.
I have a lot say/write and will be very glad if you could contact me at seyicraig@yahoo.co.uk

Kind regards

Vickii said...

It's really great that your grandparents were so openminded and progressive ... well done Grampa Overwhelmed!

Yosh said...

Great you have a good role model as your mom, and Papa Nnukwu who made it happen in his own way too. Sometimes, the best in us comes out when we do it ourselves, and our own way.

Good to see you are holding the fort here! :)

Peace

Ubong Da said...

Nice

exschoolnerd said...

isn't mummy sunday supposed to be on sunday?


heneways...to papa Nnukwu..hapi anniversary.

bitchy said...

lol @ papa nnukwu... good thing it all worked out ey? xxx

p.s. i've moved my blog to http://etcetera-etceteroo.blogspot.com - let's just say it was an accident and now i can't get my old url back cuz the blogger ppl are idiots

angie said...

OWNB were r u?
Its been almost a week!

Nyemoni said...

ONB where r u? This is so unlike you!!!

In my head and around me said...

Nyemoni, you took the words right out of my mouth.

Overwhelmed, it's strange that you did not respond to the comments and that you have not blogged for such a long while. Odi kwa na nma?

LondonBuki said...

Hey ONB... hope you are ok...

NaijaBloke said...

Wow!! Its ur Grandpa's wedding anniversary ke ...LOL

Missed u jere baby ,...hope u r aiight sha ..been busy like crazy here ..(hope Vera reads this)

Memoirs Of A Travelling Shoes said...

hey gurl, just stopping by ur blog..Nice one!