Thursday, December 14, 2006

My Blogging Dilemma

I’ve known Naijadude for about 2 years and been close friends with him for a little over a year. From when I met him, we just always had a chill connection… we’d talk on the phone all the time, go shopping and all that fun stuff. At the time I was single, as was he. It’s funny cos Naijadude is handsome, about 6ft3 inches tall to my 5 ft11, but it never occurred to me to see him as a potential ‘date’. From the get-go, we just gelled as friends and never made any attempt to make it anything more. We shared an extensive love of music… old classics, soul, r n b especially… although he never seemed to love Sade as much as me, and I could never quite find the same love for that bald singing goat ‘Kem’… lol. I remember I kept telling him to specify the kind of girl he liked so I could hook him up with one of my gorgeous friends. He’d always just laugh and talk about something else. I never suspected a thing. As the months went by, we became closer and closer. One day I think he called me or sent me a message on msn but I was unavailable. I got back to him and he told me he had been stressed out at the time and wanted to vent. I was all ears but apparently for him the urge had passed. I abhor quarter-stories and will bug the hell out of anybody till I get juicy details. It was so hard for him that I even remember asking him if he’d gotten a girl pregnant or something. He laughed and just gave me a link to go on… HIS BLOG! I read the title and was like huh?!?! I mean I’d had no clue whatsoever… I just read everything he’d ever written on the blog… from his first post to the last one he’d put up at the time. I came back on msn and all I said was babe…. I love you… I’d already grown to love him and whether his dick stood up to Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt meant jack to me… they’re both hot in my opinion. We talked about everything from that point on and the rest of our relationship as they say is history…. He’s now one of my closest friends. Another thing I have to commend him for is making me pick the boyfriend. At the time (about 8,9 months ago), I was going on dates with a couple of guys, but Naijadude would not hear of any other dude except the boyfriend. …END OF STORY. Boy am I glad I listened?! No wonder the boyfriend loves Naijadude… lol.

Anyways, after reading Naijadude’s blog, I came across Disillusioned Naija Babe’s blog. I read a lot of her posts and I was just amazed. I mean I loved to write but her stuff was just phenomenal… the way the words flowed from sentence to sentence… I got lost in it… the happy, the sad… the inbetween… just everything.

After reading both Naijadude and Disillusioned Naija Babe’s blog… a lot of issues that I had came to mind.

To a lot of the general public, I’m a party and good time girl. I’m smart but just never feel the need to shove it in anyone’s face. Almost everyone’s first impression of me is as a complete goofball and joker. I am completely down with all the good times… but there’s a part of me that has pain, anger, hurt, issues… I wanted a place to express all of that anonymously. Nobody would know who I am… what school I go to… who my family is… my friends… they’d just hear my story for the first time and judge it accordingly… not based on how well I dance to Makossa, how many jokes I can tell, how long my legs are, how pretty I might or might not be. I just wanted to talk about those things that are harder for me to address in person… things that dredge up so much pain for me. I wanted to confront my demons… my memories.

I mean I used to think a lot of my issues were in my past… done and dealt with… but when a lot of things started to manifest in my older and adult life… I knew I had to open up or internally combust. I mean I found it so hard to trust guys. I subconsciously looked for reasons to disqualify them… to show how terrible, heartless, untrustworthy, they were… I wanted to show how much they were like my dad. I remember a sexual experience when I kicked the crap out of my ex-boyfriend cos he was creeping up on me while I slept… it reminded me of my ‘uncle’. Things like that among others were just coming to the forefront… so I knew I had to express stuff before I reached the point of no return. Naijadyme told me I used to be very angry… not to her, you, or the person who sees me on the street. Apparently it was all just bubbling under the surface… so even when I smiled… the hurt was one layer underneath.

I started this blog for a new beginning.

Four months into it, I’m a little confused cos I’m getting out’ed. Friends are finding out about my blog. About 4 friends did last week. I mean the thing is that I’m exactly the same person on this blog as I am in real life… open, honest and direct. That’s probably why it was very easy for them to find out it was me. So my actual dilemma is this… since I’ve decided that I’m going to be completely honest, completely real, completely me on this blog… what if being me would hurt someone in my ‘real life’. If I expressed something that hurt me or pissed me off about someone or a certain situation and they’re reading it… does that make me a bad person… a bad friend?!

Another thing I wonder is… if it was somewhat easy for these people after reading my blog or certain entries to realize it is me… how easy would it be for others to find me out too?

The only person I would really care and probably shut down if she found out my blog would be my mom. That’s only because there’s too many references to doggy style and cunninglingus here. I’m lucky for now, however, cos she knows almost nothing about the internet except yahoo mail.

I’ve never written for attention seeing as I get enough of that in my ‘real life’. However, I do appreciate my blog pals cos y’all come down and comment on every post I write no matter how stupid or trite my subject matter. But right now I’m just wondering what to do … be as honest as ever and ‘friends’ who find out can get to understand a little more the heart that beats inside, or censor myself and become a ‘safe’ blogger… the kind that writes stuff that nobody would get incensed about, the kind that talks surface but never goes underneath, the kind that tries to please everybody, the kind that says a lot but nothing at all?!

42 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm...
I totally feel where your coming from girl. I don't even know what to say except still be yourself but be careful (so you don't get to hurt your friends/others).

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm...
I totally feel where your coming from girl. I don't even know what to say except still be yourself but be careful (so you don't get to hurt your friends/others).

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm...
I totally feel where your coming from girl. I don't even know what to say except still be yourself but be careful (so you don't get to hurt your friends/others).

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm...
I totally feel where your coming from girl. I don't even know what to say except still be yourself but be careful (so you don't get to hurt your friends/others).

yankeenaijachick said...

Eh yah, feel ya girl. Anyways, l voted ya on my blog. stay loved girl.

jadedKiss said...

babe, if you leave, blogging would lose its funnest character, and i'd lose my cyber sister...
but -and i cant believe i'm writing this cuz i only jus forgave noni- i'd understand completely. You have alot of demons in your past that need to be exorcised, and you don't need to have people know stuff you'd rather not tell.. ..
It shows the beauty of your personality that you are the same in type as in life. to be honest, i'v been trying to figure if i knew you myself.. turns out i don't. I have very few friends as genuinely crazy yet honest as you.

that said, LOL at your mum reading about doggy style and cunninlingus- she'd be scandalized!

naijadude is strong for being able to deal with his dudeness, esp being nigerian. There's so much controversy and criticism and ostracising('d i spell that right?) that results from that entire situation.. even I, honestly am not in support of it, but his blog shows him as an individual with regular issues, not some alien who maybe pees different jus cuz he recognises that brad pitt is hot. i mean, he is!
I'm so rambling at this point!

i don't want you to go.
I know your blog has helped you deal with alot of your issues.perhaps it has served its purpose..?
if you're strong enough now to continue your healing by yourself, then sail away to complete liberation. if staying will hurt you or others close to you, then again, spread your wings, butterfly.

ALL THAT SAID, if you leave i'll do juju for you and you'll start growing hair out of your ass!
lol.
X

Anonymous said...

Hahah...why do you have to beat me on this one! You know we already talked about it and you came to talk about it eh!....LOL I will always love you still.

I do feel you, its at ur discretion girl. If i am not comfortable with myself I would have shut it down or make it private. So its your call, you can make it private or close it, but its an arena for you to let go of your thoughts, its hard to close it. Just go private girl, you know I will go to the moon with you....

Ouch! I missed my date today because I came with you, ***crying***

***And I READ EVERY WORD, you knw I am honest eh!***

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Nilla:lmao… computer virus don turn you into superfan but me I no go everly complain… U WIN THE FIRST PRIZE TODAY… and you will receive a special edition Larry Koldsweat Leopard Print Sweater by mail!!! babe

@Yankeenaijachick: lol… thanks for the vote oh… but you for try spell my gorgeous name well now… in fact I dey go there again make I comment oh just so you see am quickquick… I’m really glad you enjoy my blog… I haven’t been having much time to blog lately… but anytime I do… I adore your writing… bigups babe!!!

@JadedKiss: Thanks a lot love… I don’t want to stop blogging really… what my question is is that I don’t know if I should be as uncensored, as open, as honest… but then where’s the fun… what’s the point of being an ‘anonymous’ blogger if I can’t pour out my heart… the good, the bad and the ugly. Oh this blog has far from finished serving its purpose… there’s some really painful stuff I wrote this week… I think I’ll post em next week… until the day I fall in love, till I’m able to open up my heart completely and share everything that is in me to share…I don’t think this blog would’ve served its purpose(I hope!). Except they take away all internet connection in Canada, or momsi finds it out, or somebody broadcasts my identity anyhow… but since those haven’t happened yet… you’re stuck with me for a while cybersis mine. I don’t mind people knowing cos part of the reason I share the things I do is to let people know that no matter how well put together someone is on the outside… some of us are really messed up inside… sometimes its our fault… and sometimes it isn’t… but that doesn’t change the facts. lol@thinking you knew me… wouldn’t that be grand?! Like seriously?! Thanks for the comments and the love and the everything babe… I appriciaite (lol… wrong spelling?!)Naijadude is one of the strongest people I know and I respect him so much for being able to put deal with the stuff he deals with. People with a little less backbone would’ve crumbled a long time ago… I think there’s something to learn from him… that no matter who we are… it’s ok to be ‘you’… if you don’t love you… no one else will!!!

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Naijadude: lol… you berra write about it oh… shebi I wrote about my own point of view… so you too write yours … and now I’ve completely forgiven you just because you completely read this post from beginning to end. Lol… I forgot to ask if you watched the news… they showed me talking oh… I’m BECOMING A COLLYWOOD STAR!!!(Canadian Hollywood… Lol) I couldn’t even watch myself on tv oh. I am comfortable with me and writing but I guess I still have a few things to work out. But nah I’d never do the private blog… at least not at this stage… actually I’m going to email Noni and find out what went down with her blog!!! Thanks babyluv for showing up today especially that early… I really appreciate it forreal… But you so know I’m gonna tease you endlessly for weeks and you know the reason why! Actually… I feel a blog write-up coming… hope you don’t beat me to it… lmao!!!

Anonymous said...

overwhelmed abeg wetin be all this story wey u dey yarn. simple english, if they dont like wat they read, give them a hint on wat to do. u ask me wat,(this might be giving away stuff i intend doing on my blog but i'll go ahead anyway, cos itS you) its somn u knew all along. simply add thIs short phrase to the end of every blog post.
1. IF YOU DONT LIKE MY ATTITUDE QUIT TALKING TO ME!

or this

2. IF YOU DNT LIKE WHAT YOU READ, TAKE A NUMBER STAND IN LINE AND WAIT FOR YOUR TURN TO KISS MY @$$, AND REMEMBER TO TELL ME THE FLAVOR.

or this

3. IF YOU LIKE ME, FIND THE NEAREST FREEWAY AND CROSS IT DURING PEAK RUSH HOUR TRAFFIC.
or this

4. IF YOU HAVE APROBLEM WITH WHAT YOU READ, DO US A FAVOR GIVE A MOVING BUS A HUG.

theres more, u can only hold back stuff this much just like me. i still hold alot back too, but the minute i decide to say watever. it has been said and most likely no apology in my books. so if they no lik ewetin u talk they shoul ddo one of the above !

Anonymous said...

lol @ nilla, 4 times? I'm sure it was a mistake just that it was funny.

Now for you, ONB. If you remember at all, you were the first person I added to my fave blog list. I found out about your blog thru a friend but then I really enjoyed it. That was one of the reasons I actually decided to get a blog. I felt you were venting what you had to and I think it helps you. If you decide to leave blogging,it would be less fun.
If you feel comfortable saying what you wanna say here, then go for it. If not, then you can decide to close it down. But I would find it sad if you do

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@ChiefO: lol.. as my best friend Naijadyme would say… ‘that’s the way forward’. I feel you still… you’re just too funny… I don miss your presence for my blog… I hope everything is everything… I haven’t been reading other blogs lately cos I been so caught up in a lot of stuff… but I will go on yours from tomorrow and see what you been up to lately… Keep it gangsta Engineer Ayo.. the only guy who can construct computer cpu from cardboard paper… The lord be with you… lol

@Naija Sapphire: lol… dang… I don popular no be small oh… is this your friend a blogger too abi no? Thanks for making me number 1 because as we both know… I’m a GANGSTA!!! Lol… just playing… nah I’m not thinking of closing shop… just of how detailed to be in my writing cos I want to write something about something who used to be really dear to me… and still might or might not be… cos a lot of things about our relationship are still up in the air… but the way its looking… I think I might write about it still… cos it’s my blog and my thoughts to express and I guess I should be prepared for whatever comes out of it right?! You want me to leave blogging so you can come and take my blog boyfriends abi Naija Saphire?! It won’t work for you because I’ve already gone to the ironmire forest and collected serious vegetable that I place over my mud house… it will protect me from anybody who tries to take my property… in fact I CHALLENGE YOU TO COME and try to take my blog boyfriends ehn … because you’re a fine babe does not guarantee your tricks will work oh… The Ironmire forest vegetable is capable of many miracles… lol.

Anonymous said...

Why would you say so here nowwwww? The boys are not supposed to know. Don't worry, I will find other blog boyfriends to steal :). With the way your blog boyfriends are clinging, even taking JAMB exams will be easier than getting them from you.

Well be as detailed as you want as long as you know it won't be used to hurt someone close to you or you yourself. Freedom to speak, write and express.

Anonymous said...

LOL @ myself and 4 posts.
ONB I'm hopping for 4 prizes as I'm FIRST, SECOND, THIRD and FOURTH. lol.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

BWAHAHAHAHA (evil laughter) I see u've been nabbed too. Girl, i so feel u on this. Imagine within the space of a week i was nabbed by 4 people, and these are folks i happen to see almost everyday. I tell it like it is on my blog, and the fact that u know me, doesn't mean i'd change a thing about how i write. Just be careful to keep the identities of ur subjects annonymous. I was very close to deleting my blog, but NO WAY that ain't gonna happen. Whatever decision u make, make sure u're happy with it. We'd be sad to see u go. Remain blessed chica.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Naija Sapphire: lol… ok no problem I will just keep the secrets between us from now ‘upwards’ true to God… lol. I hear you on the freedom to speak, write and express… thanks babe.

@Nilla: 4 prizes ke? I be First bank of Nigeria when I go give only you 4 prizes for repeating the same message… in fact you must be drinking from Papa Okonkwo’s palm wine pot in its unfermented stage… Nilla wasn’t it you I saw singing Latin Hymns last night under the mango tree with Prophetess Isha?! I’m seriously beginning to suspect you oh babe… You know what… I’m a diplomat!.. so in order to retain peace and make sure that you don’t harmonize my name tonight under the sycamore tree.. I’ll give you 4 gifts like you requested.. that sweater I promised you will be divided into 4 equal parts… gift 1: the arms, gift 2: the front, gift 3: the back and finally, gift 4= the tag on the sweater. Lol.. I hope peace can now reign…

@Cherub: lol… my dear no be small… I know what happened with you self… I think the best thing I can do is just be careful in not exposing the identity of the people I write about… which I think I kinda do to an extent. Hell nah… I’m so not deleting my blog oh… the one I just wrote now was my 49th post…. Imagine… almost 50 posts… deleting is not even an option! I’m guessing something in the way I wrote made it seem like I intended to leave or something… I don’t… I was just thinking of how to word any other thing I was gonna write on my blog. Thanks sha babe… I hope you’re alright.. I go come your blog from tomorrow.. I’ve been an absentee blogger cos of too much stress and life schedule jare. Jah Bless… lol

Belle said...

you don't really blog about your friends (most of your posts are about your family), so i think you'll be fine. I had two people who don't even know me too well (one from church, another who knows my sibling) figure out who i was! That kinda scared me because the last thing i want is for blogging to affect my personal life like that. Anyways, I say you do what you do until it becomes uncomfortable...

Anonymous said...

you don't really blog about your friends (most of your posts are about your family), so i think you'll be fine. I had two people who don't even know me too well (one from church, another who knows my sibling) figure out who i was! That kinda scared me because the last thing i want is for blogging to affect my personal life like that. Anyways, I say you do what you do until it becomes uncomfortable...

Anonymous said...

you don't really blog about your friends (most of your posts are about your family), so i think you'll be fine. I had two people who don't even know me too well (one from church, another who knows my sibling) figure out who i was! That kinda scared me because the last thing i want is for blogging to affect my personal life like that. Anyways, I say you do what you do until it becomes uncomfortable...

Anonymous said...

you don't really blog about your friends (most of your posts are about your family), so i think you'll be fine. I had two people who don't even know me too well (one from church, another who knows my sibling) figure out who i was! That kinda scared me because the last thing i want is for blogging to affect my personal life like that. Anyways, I say you do what you do until it becomes uncomfortable...

Anonymous said...

Pele Overwhelmed.. Even though people dont know me like that ** Hopefully,** I "try" not to blog about everything that happens to me. Truth be told, I am a very detailed person & sometimes I just want to pour out the whole thing but sometimes I think twice before spilling..
Azuka and I were talking about it few days ago.. the whole personal biz and all.
GIST/DRAMA gets more comments and traffic, so if you are enjoying it, then continue else I think you should find a safer way to post about the people/stuff you write about in your blog..

Pele..Welcome to blogosphere..:D

BTW: looks like ur blog is acting..comment repetition..lol

azuka said...

I'd say you set a whole new trend with your Overwhelmedness.

Truth be told, I find that those who make the strongest objections to something are those who like but feel they shouldn't be liking it. Are your friends critical of the person you are? If it means a lot to you, then much as we'd all hate to lose you, the best option would be to stop, but that's easier said than done.

I wouldn't go so far as suggesting some bizarre stuff like cloaking your IP and some other claptrap, but I'd say you need to stand up to the opposition(?) and perhaps get paranoid about your identity. Think of it this way, you have a beautiful mind and people want to get to know the person behind Overwhelmed. Some have found out, and some will find out.

Keep doing your thing, girl. We're behind you.

PS: I'm currently doing a blogging series on my blog. Who knows, I might eventually take a look at anonymous blogging.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Belle: I would’ve called you a superfan if this same comment showing up 4 times thing didn’t happen once before on this same post with Nilla… lol… so I’m guessing there’s a problem with my blog or something… I really don’t wanna get comment verification cos I really hate doing it on other peoples blogs but its looking like I should look into it… or the blogger beta thingie that I don’t even have a clue about. I just thought about what you said and you’re right actually…I talk more about my relationship and my boyfriend than my friends… but the irony is that now I have some friend(s) situation I wanna discuss… lol… people found out about your blog too?!?! Damn at people figuring you out… is it by what you say or how you say it? ging don popular no be small oh… but

@Lee: Dang… I’ve never written to attract comments or attention… I just write what I feel/experience/like… but I hear what you’re saying still. Thanks luv. Whao… I never knew you and Azuka knew each other…

@Azuka: lol@overwhelmedness… babe you’re constantly coming up with new words for me on this blog oh!!! Lol… I’m not leaving oh!!! Abi did I write the thing in such a way that it seemed like that?! lol@getting to know the mind behind Overwhelmed… imagine me being ‘known’… complete terror.. but thanks luv… I appreciate… I hope you’re looking forward to watching The Pursuit of Happiness with Will Smith in theaters tomorrow!!! Blogging series?! I’m coming on your blog tomorrow to get all the details on that one oh… I’ve been away for too long…

Anonymous said...

If u feel blogging abt real issuesi.e, pains, hurts, joys etc. makes u feel better then go ahead and do it, be urself.
if i was one of ur friends that found out abt ur blog, i think that will make me appreciate u more and see u as a totally wonderful person(n will probably become closer to you cos i wld like to have a wonderful firend like u).
i am happy u r not thinking of quitting blogging cos for a moment there i thot that was wat u were abt to write.
lol@you will receive a special edition Larry Koldsweat Leopard Print Sweater by mail!!!

36 INCHES OF BROWN LEGS said...

hey babes,
i know exactly what u mean but truth is its refreshing to see/read someone who is so open about thier emotions and feelings and hurt and all of that. just be urself an dbe as uncensored, honest, direct and open as u've been, inevitably someone might be pissed off but at least if its about them theyd understand where ur coming from. sometimes i wish i was as opne as u r, cos ive had some of the same experiences u ve had with an 'uncle' but i just dont have the 'liver' if u get what i mean.its funny everytime i go out looking smoking and well put together, no one really knows how messed up we r inside. true o.
and if u try to be less open, ur blog pals will know cos the blog wont even be sweet again sef.
much love,
36

Yosh said...

Do what you want! But uh, it's good to be yourself, everytime. I MEAN, it's not like you wouldn't still be yourself if you become a "safe" blogger, but that internal combustion thing u talked about, that freedom to vent, to let go, to breakaway, I guess it gives your blog that thingy that "brings all the boys to the yard", if I may say that. And I sure as hell know you sure as hell know, too, that that's wat keeps "us" coming.

So keep keeping it real!

1!

Anonymous said...

@Chiefo:
You have the answers to their wahala

@ONB: just do your thing.

Anonymous said...

babe its all been said already just be yourself but be extra careful just dont ever ever ever think to stop blogging lol u hear we cant have that now can we...have a lovely week hon

Anonymous said...

Mmmmhhh - I had the same problem. I was ousted by some people who read my blog and instantly knew it was me. I guess maybe because I didn't change a lot of the scenarios and was too honest. Sometimes changing peoples names isn't enough. I don't feel comfortable knowing that people in the real world have that much info on me so I chose to restrict access to my blog. I guess you have to do what feels best for you.

Anonymous said...

Same thing happened - I was outed when a friend read my blog.. then another... then another.

I have had to delete some posts... to be honest, my blog is not 100% me, i still have things I'd like to talk about but I can't cos I don't want everyone who knows me to know some things about me.

ONB, I like your openess BUT if you are bothered by people knowing who you are - I don't know what you should do.

I changed the content of my blog, if you don't care what people say - go ahead with what you are already doing.

Keep blogging, whatever you decide PLEASE :-)

Anonymous said...

overwhelmed i don tell u b4. if u allow internal combustion take place with no exhaust system, u know it leaves a solid mess called sludge in there and i can make engines knock o. this might not cause a melt down like b4, it might cause a shutdown.

Uzo said...

Interesting.

I have to admit not knowing what this feels like. I started my blog because i loved my friend Olawunmi's blog. So i started as Uzo and while i am sure a few things on my blog come as a suprise to some that know me, i accept that. For bloggers that need the anonymity, getting outed when they arent ready can be life altering.

I think you just need to decide what's important for you. If you are truly comfortable enough with who you are to let in, so be it. If you are not and the ramifications of your identity being known are too much for you to deal with, then make your blog private like Noni Moss or start a different blog (although your style would be hard to disguise).

Much love girl...

Anonymous said...

ONB, I know you'll pull through this. All I can say is be who u are and blog about what u are comfortable with. Never once have u been offensive on ure blog so I dont see why anyone should have a problem with it.
Enjoy ure weekend.

Anonymous said...

lmao@chiefO's last comment. Thats was hecka funny.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@angie: lol… Thanks babe… you really understand!

@36 inches: babe I missed you oh… True that… I feel you completely

@yosh: long time oh.. you and xanga when person no dey fit leave comment for self… abeg switch to blogspot jare!… lol@bringing the boys to the yard… see where Kelis is now eh?! Married to the godfather of hiphop… for that one alone… I’ll continue on my journey as open as I can be! Thanks babe

@temmytayo: I feel like dancing to a shina peters song with you for some reason… you down?! Let’s dance to that old song.. e ja won(lol I can’t spell Yoruba for shit!!!)

@Life through rose-tinted glasses: I shall luv… thanks my dear… but babe.. when are you coming back to blogging now?! How’s everything on your end.. I hope you’re dealing with life iite?! I miss you oh!!!

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Noni Moss: I’m sending you an email today so we can discuss this further. Be well luv…

@LondonBuki: forreal?! I never knew that… that sucks asssss having to delete old posts and not talk about stuff you want to talk about… no the people that found out my blog are cool friends… but I just wondered how easy it must be after reading to find out it was me… Lol… Imma be blogging oh… I don’t want you to come and now steal my blog ‘fiances’ oh(well they haven’t really bought the ring yet… but I’m waiting and praying and I know by the 7th day the lord will answer me by fire… lol)

@ChiefO: lol… you are just a big joker.. I don laugh fall down for computer… luv you babe.. you have the ability to always make me laff… lmao

@Uzo: lol… yeah… I’m comfortable… life goes on jare… wetin I dey write no go change the course of the movement of the earth around its orbit(lol… I just had to brag now that I still remember high school geography… I bet you dontttttttttttttt… hehe) I’m still here oh Uzo… we go still dey misyarn for overwhelmednaijababe.blogspot.com forsure… lol… you want me to leave all the tagging assignments for only you to do?! It won’t work oh Uzo… I’m here and we have to share it 50-50 percent whether you like it or not!!!

@Mari: Thanks babe… I appreciate…. As long as you are in support of me… I can climb Mountain Kilimanjaro with nothing but a waterbottle and pack of chewing gum in case I meet some fine fine climbers on my way. Lol… enjoy your weekend too babyluv

Justme said...
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Justme said...

I say F*CK that. Be urself and type what u want. (Easier said than done) As for me, it is very difficult since my friends and listeners are finding out about this blog.

TP said...

Hey girl! Sorry I'm just catching up on your recent posts. I have been out of blog-land for a while now. So what have I missed?

I'm going through the same dilemma with my blog too, especially the journey one. A friend found out about my blogs recently, and even though she is cool, I told her not to tell anybody because I want to remain anonymous. I guess it's because I want to write what comes into my head, not what I feel my friends should be reading about my life. That said though, I still hold some things back because I don't want to implicate some people.

But my dear, please do what you are most comfortable with. I really admire your courage in writing those deep issues, and I'm sure it helps you to overcome the negative effects. I think we would all be better friends if we knew where we were all coming from.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm this is a tough call because I think it's inevitable that someday, someone you don't want to read your blog will come across it so you have to be prepared to deal with the consequences.

I hope this doesn't mean you'll stop blogging or you'll stop being so honest because that's why everyone loves your blog so much, you say it as it happened or as you see it, no sugarcoating, just the truth!

And as for blogging about friends who might come across it, hopefully it will give you guys an opportunity to talk about something that you haven't and they'll realise that this is your way of venting and dealing with things and it's not personal.

Good luck deciding anyway!

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

@Just me: Thanks luv… make you throw some of that your fame come our side oh!!! In fact have I ever told you about my dream to become a nollywood actress ehn babe?! Shebi you can make it happen seeing as you’re in contact with all the stars… lol

@Tp: Heya babe.. where you been?! I probably should’ve noticed but I’ve been so busy with so much stuff going on in my life but I’m a little less busy now so I can get back into everybodys lives… you and hubby iite tho?! Dang @ your friend finding out about your blog… this is serious oh the way its so easy for others to find you out in this so-called anonymous world. I think I’m gonna be honest here though cos that’s the only reason I started this blog… to let loose the voices in my head… if I start censoring myself then what’s the point?! If I wrote something about someone… as long as it’s my true feelings… the person should be able to understand cos chances are that I’ve already tried to talk about it with the person before. This is my outlet and I won’t let ‘stuff’ interfere… if it comes back to bite me in the ass… I’ll talk it for what it is… things happen!!!

@Vickii: You’re so right…. I won’t stop blogging and I don’t think I can stop being me… Thanks luv…you’re the only one that I think has been ‘found out’ yet!

Anonymous said...

lmao! it was easy to find out who u were... found out thru ur ex (ma new husband)- naijadude lmaoooooo! i found a comment u posted on his blog...
anyway babes, do u. if this is therapeutic for u, then use it cuz shrinks cost money and bloggin costs nothin!
ya, i wrote a few stuff bout ma family too and anyhow they find out, i'm screwed, but i always tjry to write in codes so not a lot of ppl know what i'm talking about.
ttysoon. btw- whach doin on the 31st?
wanna have a combined bday party??? since we both aquarians and all...

and about sayin things abuout ur friends, since u kno u ain THAT annonymous, and since its better for ur relationships anyway, is uggest u tell ppl whats been on ur mind first before u post about them. for example... the "PB" entry i have on my blog, i already told the heiffer nuff times bout how i felt... marrafac, i made sure i posted it on msn so she could read it!
anyway babes, do u regardless since u'll e loved by some and hated by the rest REGARDLESS WHAT U DO!